Do not be sorry for your body. It is nothing to apologize or atone for.
Instead of simply labeling it as a natural disaster,
label it as a monsoon that brings powerful, beautiful changes
every season, a blizzard that destroys everything dangerous,
a volcanic eruption so loud it silences sirens.
You are not a hitchhiker heading to the wrong destination,
with an outstretched thumb only leading to mistakes.
Instead, you are a folded map with wonderful secrets
in all your obscure corners, and no one ever apologizes
for finding hidden treasures.
There’s a reason willows weep: they live life with bent backs,
with weak spines and tissue-paper bones.
But yours are still holding strong- no matter how many times
you feel as if your whole body is made of sawdust,
maybe it’s stardust instead.
And the saying about having a heavy heart may be better
than you think- because weight anchors the ship to tidal waters,
keeps it grounded and keeps it safe.
So no matter how far your heart drops or how hard it beats
against your ribcage like a hostage begging to get out,
never apologize for its stops and starts.
"He may love you. He probably does. He probably thinks about you all the time. But that isn’t what matters. What matters is what he’s doing about it, and what he’s doing about it is nothing. And if he’s doing nothing, you most certainly shouldn’t do anything. You need someone who goes out of their way to make it obvious that they want you in their life."
For Women Who Apologize Too Much
Eventually, it just clicks:
Everything is going to be okay. You are going to be okay.
"Sometimes you have to forget what you feel, and remember what you deserve."
- You are stronger than you realise.
- You are crueller than you realise.
- The smallest words will break your heart.
- You will change. You’re not the same person you were three years ago. You’re not even the same person you were three minutes ago and that’s okay. Especially if you don’t like the person you were three minutes ago.
- People come and go. Some are cigarette breaks, others are forest fires.
- You won’t like your name until you hear someone say it in their sleep.
- You’ll forget your email password but ten years from now you’ll still remember the number of steps up to his flat.
- You don’t have to open the curtains if you don’t want to.
- Never stop yourself texting someone. If you love them at 4 a.m., tell them. If you still love them at 9.30 a.m., tell them again.
- Make sure you have a safe place. Whether it’s the kitchen floor or the Travel section of a bookshop, just make sure you have a safe place.
- You will be scared of all kinds of things, of spiders and clowns and eating alone, but your biggest fear will be that people will see you the way you see yourself.
- Sometimes, looking at someone will be like looking into the sun. Sometimes someone will look at you like you are the sun. Wait for it.
- You will learn how to sleep alone, how to avoid the cold corners but still fill a bed.
- Always be friends with the broken people. They know how to survive.
- You can love someone and hate them, all at once. You can miss them so much you ache but still ignore your phone when they call.
- You are good at something, whether it’s making someone laugh or remembering their birthday. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that these things don’t matter.
- You will always be hungry for love. Always. Even when someone is asleep next to you you’ll envy the pillow touching their cheek and the sheet hiding their skin.
- Loneliness is nothing to do with how many people are around you but how many of them understand you.
- People say I love you all the time. Even when they say, ‘Why didn’t you call me back?’ or ‘He’s an asshole.’ Make sure you’re listening.
- You will be okay.
- You will be okay.